Monday, 3 February 2014

You're not alone, it just seems to be! : Overcoming Loneliness

Have you ever felt lonely or just out of place ? Did you ever lived with so many people around and still feel isolated ? Do you have to think whom to call to have a little chat even when you have around 200 contacts in your phone book ?

Loneliness happens to everyone at some time or another at various stages. As loneliness is described as a negative emotion, people experiencing it gets as blue as they can get feeling empty inside, walking with a shadowed face and spirit. 


1. Examine the what and the how:

Take your time, get your paper and a pen and write down why all of a sudden or not so sudden you are feeling lonely. What made you think this way ? Do your friends know that you are feeling blue or are they not calling you assuming that you're busy ? 

You may realize that you do have existing friends that do not even know you're lonely or someone that you considered a friend is not a friend at all which is nothing to care about. There are people who break our trust and violate our friendship but then it is important to forgive them for our own peace of mind and learn for the future. 

Repeat the same exercise in figuring out the 'how' of the loneliness. In other words, how do you want to interact with people ? In short, re introspect and write it down so you know yourself and the cause of this feeling a bit more better so that you can turn it around.

2. Go out and feel the sun:

Although you would really feel like locking yourself inside your room, curling up in bed and eat chocolates the whole day, that isn't going to help. Go out! Feel the sunshine, the dew drops on the grass. Hear the birds chirp and watch the flowers bloom. Nature is really a great anti-depressant and who knows you might find someone there to have a little chat with ;)

3. Talk to people:

If people aren't talking to you or doesn't seem to care, you initiate the step. Message an old friend and catch up in a cafe. Call a group of friends and have a Google hangout together. Join clubs and meet new people with similar interests. Try to sit with different people during lunch breaks. Make conversations, be curious of the other person and you will never be out of topics to talk on. You would realize that there are some amazing people out there that you never knew existed.

4. Do good, feel good:

Do something nice for someone you don't know whenever you can. Say hello to a stranger, open the door for the person in front of you. Take a step further by visiting an orphanage or a senior citizen home. You will be amazed by how wonderful you feel. Many of these people are indeed really lonely and it would brighten up their day as well as yours.

5. Stay Positive:

Understand that loneliness is just a feeling and not a fact. Loneliness is temporary. Even if smiling is the last thing you feel like, smile anyways. It would automatically boost up your spirits and would instantly make you feel better. Smile, stay positive and you would attract positive energy around you.


17 comments:

  1. Sakshi I never thought I could feel lonely, I like alone time but I am really outgoing and love to talk to people but lately I have felt lonely, which is so foreign to me, I surround myself with positive things and I believe in getting out no matter how you feel, so these are some great ideas... The loneliness should pass eventually :-/

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    1. I have sadly felt the same lately too. Hence the post. I hope you feel better soon. *sends positive and happy thoughts across your way* :)

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  2. Really well though out post....been there!

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  3. Sometimes when I feel myself stepping out and getting thrown into some lonely place, I force myself to just smile and think I'm fine. And most of the time the trick works :-)

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    1. It does, really does. Keep smiling! :)

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  4. Years ago, after the death of my spouse, I felt so lonely. I was lonely even with a large group of people. I keep living and eventually the loneliness disappeared and I one day I realized it wasn't there anymore.

    I think your suggestions are very good.

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    1. I'm so sorry to hear that. *hugs*
      Thanks :)

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  5. Great..it's the best of article really I like your post.

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  6. The best thing i have ever read, & trust me, i dont read much, but i dont think i ever will again, This was amazing.

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  7. You talk about things in a manner that touches your heart. Reading your posts is always a pleasure. Thank you.

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  8. The hardest thing i find is being alone around the people you like, that feeling of the imaginary distance between you is hard, and I find that at these moments being alone actually help.

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    1. Thank you for sharing what you feel :)

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  9. I'm loving this! I have a somewhat similar post about being alone. Alone time is actually a beautiful thing if you know how to handle it. Hope you don't mind me sharing it with you.

    http://imcapturingsunshine.blogspot.in/2014/02/youre-not-alone-it-just-seems-to-be.html

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Capture some sunshine *winks*

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